What Are You Letting Go of This Fall?

It’s been one month since my Dad’s accident. In many ways, my life has returned to normal. I am back in Minneapolis; I spend my days looking for part-time work, taking care of myself, and spending time with the people (and cats) that I love. But my center of gravity has shifted. The month before Read More …

How a Recent Personal Experience Made This One Thing Clearer

Two weeks ago today, shortly after I published my last post, my dad fell 20 feet from a tree stand he was taking down, rolled down a ravine, and came to rest against a tree at the bottom of the steep grade. It took emergency crews from several townships an hour and a half to Read More …

4 Steps to Speak With More Confidence About Trans Stuff

You’re at a social gathering, standing there in a small circle with your sweating drink in hand, the residue of that handful of mixed nuts you just ate in your teeth. The conversation suddenly shifts to Caitlyn Jenner, and you feel the sudden urge to disappear. Your stomach gets tight, you begin to sweat. You Read More …

To Pee or Not to Pee?

This past weekend my partner and I traveled 600 miles round trip to Milwaukee, WI to attend the wedding of friends. Two scenes from the weekend: A. We’re on our way back to Minneapolis. We’re hot and tired and hungry and stop at a gas station in rural Wisconsin that serves as a truck stop, Read More …

How to Start Right Where You Are

Welcome to One Small Thing—my biweekly newsletter that provides you each time with one small thing you can start doing today to make a difference in the life of a person who identifies as transgender or gender non-conforming. I’m so grateful you are here. I don’t know about you, but I feel like spring carries Read More …