4 Steps to Speak With More Confidence About Trans Stuff

You’re at a social gathering, standing there in a small circle with your sweating drink in hand, the residue of that handful of mixed nuts you just ate in your teeth. The conversation suddenly shifts to Caitlyn Jenner, and you feel the sudden urge to disappear. Your stomach gets tight, you begin to sweat. You Read More …

How to Be More Mindful of Your Language

This happened recently: I’m standing in line with my partner at a bookstore in Minneapolis while they purchase a book. As the bookstore employee is putting our books into a bag, my partner asks if I gave the clerk our coupon, and I responded quickly with “I already gave it to her.” I realized immediately Read More …

Speaking the Names of Trans Women of Color

Last week I had the great fortune of spending three days on the North Shore of Lake Superior with my partner and their family. For those of you who are close to me, or if you read my interview on how I would describe my gender, you know that Lake Superior’s shores are one of Read More …